Sunday, February 15, 2009

We Interrupt Your Regularly Scheduled Black History Month....

For Valentine's Day

How cool is it that in the middle of Black History Month is the national celebration of love,Love,LOVE!

The above photo are some of the typical symbols and tokens of this international day of love we call Valentine's Day:
The Flowers
The 2 rings
The Chocolate
The Goblet of Celebratory Drink (Ginger Ale in my world)

People across the country received one or more of these tokens from their loved ones.
Some received,cards or phone calls, soft words of kindness and love, a song dedication, a hug, kiss and a night of lustful passion.

And some received none of the above.
Or so they think.

Typically the single person dreads Valentine's Day aka Single Awareness Day. Single women every where gathered in gaggles of "girl's night out" had dinner, watched "He's Just Not That Into You" and then went to the club or bar to go dancing and undoubtedly sang karaoke to "I WILL SURVIVE" by Gloria Gaynor.
Packs of men either hit the club with a bet of who can come home with the most phone numbers or not come home at all. Or flipped through their phone numbers to see which lonely girl or ex they truly have no emotional interest in is available for a night of only physical passion.

Don't trip folks, I'm just keepin it real. This is the world we live in today.

I'm now one of those single women. But I had the most extraordinary experiences yesterday. I woke up with a smile on my face. My excitement for the day I could hardly contain it. I took me a while to realize where it was coming from and why.

So much love was water falling into my heart and flooding over. I was so overcome I thank the Lord and asked him why it was happening and where it was coming from. He simply whispered to me
"this is the love you share with others coming back to bless you this day"

I could feel it! I had so much of it and my heart was flooding it back out to those I love and care about.
I had felt love of this magnitude a few times before, usually after some major interruption or life changing disturbance.
Sometimes we make the mistake of assuming those we love will return that same love. The love we share with others does come back to us. It is often not from the source or person to which WE give. It should be. Morally and ethically it should be. But we live in a world that is ever losing it's morals and ethics.

This overwhelming feeling of love I received was so wonderful I asked the Lord to bless everyone I loved with it. I wanted everyone to feel the joy and elation of it.
I believe the love we give comes back to us. I believe it is only the true love, not to be mistaken for lust, or selfish manipulations of giving to make ourselves look and feel good. The beauty of giving true love is that Heavenly Father can sort out the real stuff from the manipulator's stuff and make the reciprocation of it happen.

For Valentine's Day I danced and sang and appreciated the flowers and chocolates that came to my home. I enjoyed a nice dinner and a glass of ginger ale. I laughed and squealed with delight at some of the everyday joys. I talked to many of my friends and enjoyed our conversations.

OH, I spent most of the day home alone. I don't think I could have felt more loved than if I were in a room full of friends and family, or in the arms of a man promising to love and take care of me forever.

Today I sit with a smile on my face still in awe of the wonderful love and peace I feel. I feel as if I'm on the road to happiness. My life is good. It is filled AND fulfilling. And that makes Valentine's Day pretty much everyday.

Don't get so caught up in the commercialism of love and romance that we forget to have these things on a daily basis.

To my single friends and family who are aching for that love and care from another person. It can be full filled inside of yourself by the true love you give to others.

“And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus” Philippians 4:19

"Comfort your hearts, and establish you in every good word and work." 2 Thessalonians 2:16

I believe part of experiencing true full filling love has very much to do with some of the things the Lord has asked of us:

John 13:34 "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

Leviticus 19:34 "But the stranger that dwelleth with you shall be unto you as one born among you, and thou shalt love him as thyself..."

Heavenly Father expects us to take care and love one another. He put us her to interact with one another

“The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone’ Genesis 2:18

Have you ever noticed in the creations days of the bible after God created something he said "and it was good?" Except when he made Adam? He noticed that it was not good for their to be JUST Adam so what did he do next? He created Eve to complete him.. and THEN "it was very good."

I don't want to turn this into a "Man should not be alone he needs a woman..." blog.
I simply use this to illustrate that we humans need each other.
We were created to mainly interact with each other. It is unnatural for us to prefer to be alone with our things.

This is why I believe the love we put out in the world by sharing with each other comes back to us in overwhelming floods at those times when we need it the most. And it comes mostly for our God on high who who understands our most strongest desires. Who is aware of our most ugliest and hidden secrets. Who knows our every need. And who loves us regardless and in spite of ourselves.

Through Jesus Christ we have the perfect model of what a Valentine should be. It's not limited to boyfriends or girlfriends as we of the world have limited it. It is expanded to friends, family,coworkers, the cute man at the drive in at Burger Supreme who gives me and wink and a winning smile each time I go. It's expanded to the homeless man begging for change at the grocery store. It's extended to the lonely guy at home on his computer looking for love in all the wrong places. It's available for the nice quiet girl who stayed home depressed watching chick flicks who never had a boyfriend and there is no rhyme or reason why.

Next year when this day comes around I hope we will all take the time to remember EVERYONE deserves to be loved and appreciated. And may we be the cupid who can bring them at the very least the Love of God.


S'mee said...


Ddsprncs said...

HI I just found your blog I dont have alot of time to read it right now but I am excited bc I am also a black lds women with 2 girls and we allways fell like it is just us we live in the ca bay area. I also have a blogspot --all day drama I have not written on it 4 ever but you can see some pics of us on there... I will be back to read read read. Take care

ddsprncs said... I thought I would put the link incase you would like to check it out.

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